relations entangled in Mr. and Mrs. Iyer..........

today i saw a movie "Mr. andMrs. Iyer" directed by aparna sen............. i know i am awfully late in watching the movie............ many of u, no no i should say most of u, must have already watched it............ its beatifully directed in a picturesque location............ although the backdrop of the movie is grim but the story in my understanding explores the relations that happen/forms at the most unusal places and under the most unexpected circumstances........ it explores the heart and mind of the people captured in a situation where everything is beyond their control and imagination...... it tells us that how relationships develops its strength and grabs a place in the mind and heart....... it also potrays that how a person completely different in in every respect that one can think of gets etched in the mind forever and takes a special place in life.......... remembering whom, later on, the heart aches...........

i was then thinking that is it really possible to control the growing affection and attachment that a person develops for another with time slowly and steadily........ the process is sometimes so slow that by the time this process comes into registration of the mind it becomes impossible to ignore the bond and supress the affection......... now dont confuse it with "Love" as understood and depicted in the ordinary bollywood movie............ where the hero realises that he is so much in love with the heroine that he cannot live a moment without her.......... i am not talking about that illusory love...... i am talking about a attachment so strong that it almost threatens the proper functioning of other established relations in life............ as in the movie konkona sensharma develops with rahul bose........... a bond that in a way takes her away from her own husband......... and her heart keeps longing for the man she is never going to see again....... same is the case with rahul bose also but as he is not married the harm in his case will be little less.......... that is what i think........... oh!!!!!! i lost the track of the question i had strated with.............

so coming back to the oiginal issue......... is it really in human control to monitor and regulate the growth of closeness and fondness for another person???????? does developing this kind of feeling depends on the situation one is in or can happen anytime anywhere????????
i know that time is a ruthless healer......... it takes away all hopes and pain, very slowly and steadily and leaves back feeling of pain or happiness attached with the incident(what we call memories).......... so are these kind of fondness and attachments that grow between two person a fleeting thing???????? a trasitory phase??????? where both of them come to know about each other, make a bond that lasts in their memories for the lifetime and then suddenly come to reality and go back in the routine life with these memories and nothing else???????? at least this is what is shown in the movie........ where both the central characters move back to their respective lives with mind full of memories and heart full of loss......... well i am thoroughly confused......... although i hope i have not left u confused...........